Adjusting and being assertive. Both serve different purposes and we have to behave in different ways depending on the situation.
I have learnt this the bitter way that I am assertive, almost bordering on being aggressive with a few and there are times that I am a total pushover. That is it, I say. I do as I want and I shall compromise when I want.
If you are not adjusting, neither shall I be because I can bend but not if I think that I will break. Enough.